Dating can take more planning when a child depends on you. Start with what you want and how much time you have. You can decide when to meet someone, how much to share and when it might make sense to introduce them to your children.
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Make room at your own pace
After a breakup or divorce, you may want time to settle into a new routine before dating. If you want to meet someone, try a short plan that fits your schedule and childcare. Be clear about when you’re available and keep time for your own rest and friendships.
Talk about your responsibilities early
You can mention that you’re a parent while keeping your children’s names, school and routine private. People with or without children can respect your schedule. Notice whether the person listens when you explain what is workable and follows through on plans.
Introduce a partner with care
In my work as a therapist, I learned how valuable age-appropriate honesty can be. Tell your child what they need to know, keep the first introduction brief and offer them a chance to talk later. Reassure them about routines that are important to them. Give them time to get used to a new person and listen if they raise a concern.